Controlling Your Metastatic Breast Cancer Narrative
#1 Stay Off Of Google
Do not fill your brain with thoughts about how bad your metastatic breast cancer journey will suck. Have you ever heard the saying that a person will tell ten other people about a bad experience but only tell one person about a good experience? If you start researching the side effects and reading blogs from people who have gone through chemotherapy and radiation, the negative experiences significantly outweigh the positive experiences. So control your narrative and stop reading blogs.
In 2017 I got my biopsy results: I had metastatic breast cancer stage. What was the first thing I did after my eyes were dry enough to read a computer screen? I started to research the side effects of chemotherapy. Then I started looking for blogs about people sharing their experiences. The result? Before I even had my first appointment with my oncologist about treating my cancer, I had convinced myself this would be the worst experience of my life.
#2 Remove Your Hair Before The Chemotherapy Does
One of the known side effects of chemotherapy is hair loss. While some hair loss is pretty positive (legs, armpits, mustache, and those pesky chin hairs), losing the hair on our head, eyebrows and eyelashes are not as great.
When I was getting ready to start chemotherapy, there was research about something called a cooling cap. It is FDA approved, but the literature seems to lean on the side that it can help reduce but not prevent hair loss.
With that in mind, I decided to control the hair loss narrative and had a head-shaving party with a few local and remote friends. Hey – if I would lose my hair anyway, why wait for the chemotherapy to control when it would just fall out in clumps week over week. You can control a few things after being diagnosed with cancer, so my advice is to empower yourself and do the deed before starting chemotherapy!
When I say party, I mean it was a party! My local friends, including the one who shaved my head with borrowed clippers, came over with a bottle of wine, and my remote friends joined in using Houseparty. We drank, laughed, and shaved my head. It was liberating to know I was in control.
#3 Bald and Beautiful. Now What?
One of the other things you can control is what you put on your head (if anything) after you shave it. A bald head is just as beautiful as wigs and headcovers. A reliable resource for both and the most comfortable head covers ever, check out Headcovers Unlimited and Wigs’ N More for an outstanding wig selection, price, and accommodating staff.
Personally, my bald head was fine and not to mention easy to maintain, but also a little boring. So, I went for a few different wig styles to change my look and bought head covers to match outfits and even holidays. The wigs combined with the extra head covers created a whole new design and fashion option, and I loved every minute of it.
#4 Get Rid Of Your Headcovers When Your Hair Grows Back
When you no longer need your head covers, donate them or throw them away! Avoid keeping them around “just in case” or because you “spent so much money on them.” Donating your headcovers will not only pay it forward for others to use them if they can’t afford to purchase their own, but it also tells your higher self that you no longer need the covers; meaning, you are cancer-free and planning on staying that way!
If you purchased wigs, keep the ones you liked the best and use them now and then. Just last month, I threw on my long wig and went out just because I could. The whole process stirred up some great memories of dressing up with my mom’s accessories, shoes, and jewelry for fun when I was a little girl.
Again, if you can’t control cancer, control the narrative! Heal with volition and empower yourself to make decisions to lead your journey instead of just participate in it.
#5 Be a Victor. Not a Victim
Metastatic Breast Cancer sucks. However, that does not mean your journey has to suck as well. Focus on as many of the positive aspects as you can. Do you have any idea how much time you will save when you do not have to do your hair, shave your legs and armpits? What about the money you will save on hair products, salon visits, and bikini waxes?
Just for fun, look back one year and calculate how much money you spent on these items and services, put that amount into a separate account, and start planning what you will spend that money on when your journey is over. For example, I used mine to book a vacation in the Bahamas.
#6 Focus On Your Health And Wellness
Metastatic breast cancer forces your body to go through a stressful transformation. While there are some things you can’t control, you can make sure you are getting the proper nutrition and emotional support to kick your cancer’s ass!
Following the proper diet before, during, and after your treatment is the best thing you can do to heal your body. For your wellness, be sure you have someone who understands what this journey is all about and can help you stay positive, adjust your attitude when needed, and keep you focused on your overall wellness.
#7 Find The Right Health and Wellness Coach
Finding the right health and wellness coach may be the last thing on your mind, but having a coach during your journey may be the best thing you ever do for your current and future health and wellness.
- Find a health and wellness coach who has had metastatic breast cancer and has experienced different treatments like chemotherapy and radiation. A coach, who has experienced the journey rather than knowledge of, can empower you with the correct information at the right time.
- Interview your coach. Having one or more discovery calls with your coach before signing up for a package or program is essential. The calls should be free of charge and provide value and an opportunity to see if your coach is the right fit for you.
- Check out their health credentials and ask them to tell you why they are qualified to provide nutrition advice to help you through this experience.
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