Memories are not set in stone
Memory is not set in stone. The more you remember something, especially if it’s emotionally charged, the more you will reinforce the neural pathways. Another way to say it is, the more you think about something, the more you feel it, the stronger the memory.
But, did you know the state of mind you are in when you think of a memory also has a lasting effect? The state of mind you are in when remembering something can shape and even change it.
For example, recall a past relationship that ended years ago. Consciously recall it when you’re miserable and you’ll find yourself focusing on the negative parts, and those negative thoughts will grow stronger in memory.
Conversely, think of that same exact experience, but recall it when you’re happy. Notice the change?
It’s still the same experience, it’s still your mind. But the filter is different. And the filter shifts the focus, which subtly changes the memory. More importantly, it changes how the memory makes you feel and the power it has over you.
So this leaves us wondering how to change the filter.
Change the filter
You can change the filter through which your mind views a memory by learning to fully love yourself. You can learn to love yourself. Simply start telling yourself, “I love you.” Repeat again and again. You don’t have to believe it in the beginning. What matters is doing it. You’re rewiring the connections between the neurons. The mind already has a strong wiring for love; the body knows it as well. Your body knows that love nurtures, that love is gentle, that love is accepting. It knows that love heals.
The ironic twist is that the more you love yourself, the more life loves you back. I can’t explain how it works, I just know it does.
So what’s the upside of loving yourself truly and deeply? You consciously remove any limiting beliefs you may have. Would you limit yourself to what you previously thought possible? Absolutely NOT!
I’ve read that we as human beings think we are thinking, but, in reality, we’re really just remembering. We’re reliving memories. Funny thing about memories, they can be from the past or they could even be from the future. These are merely patterns or loops we run in our head. We have loops for happiness, sadness, fear, hopes, dreams, and desires. These are like well-worn paths through the forest.
If you think something once it holds no power over you. But if you repeat it over and over again with emotional intensity – with feeling, it starts to create a neurological path that controls you.
Creating a new path, one where you love yourself, can help overcome disempowering thoughts and feelings you have held for a long time, sometimes since childhood.
The mind, left to itself, repeats the same stories, the same mental loops, etching the neurological paths deeper. Most of these do not serve us so we have to consciously choose thoughts that are empowering; thoughts with emotions and feelings. Lay down a new synaptic pathway until the mind starts playing it automatically.
Continually practice positive loving thoughts until they become your primary Loop; until they become the filter through which you view life.
Repeat after me: I love myself. I love myself. I love myself. I love myself.
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